If you take away the trauma, you take away the treasure. The mistakes you made aren't just the things that made you who you are today, they are architects for who you can become.
The truth matters more than how it makes you feel. It matters more than the price.
Embrace the cost of life.
Best things in life are free is an illusion.
Love, friendship, family, health, environment, happiness - all of these require a multitude of choices, each a sacrifice of your immediate whims to your higher values.
Making choices requires trading off one item against another. Often the items seem very similar in value, unless you are mindful of:
a) Your priorities (values stacked against each other)
b) what exactly each choice ultimately gives you
Everything in life is a trade-off. You can not eat your cake and have it too.
Sometimes we realize that a trade-off has happened AFTER it has happened. Sometimes we are not even conscious of the trade-offs we are making every day.
To make an intelligent choice as often as we can we need to practice being mindful of when life is presenting us with a choice and to be in touch with our deepest values to choose the right thing.
This blog is about all that choice stuff and our struggles with it.